I am writing this post at this particular time of year because for some reason, it is particularly important to be reminded of the importance of self love in regards to our health.
Something about the post-holiday season brings about an explosion of “righting” the “terrible” and “unhealthy” choices and “wrong doings” and “self indulgence” of the holiday season and gives birth to an inevitable shame spiral leading to unwanted gym memberships and fad diets (or so called “clean eating changes” that are really just guilt induced fad diets in disguise).
We have become accustomed to this vicious cycle of binge and starve which has often made me curious on why . . . why this cycle?
Without getting into the nitty gritty of New Years Resolutions and psychology I wanted to offer the following questions as an inquiry . . . and the following ideas for health and nourishment – from the inside out and the outside in.
Questions for reflection . . .
What is the appeal in behaving “excessively” or “lazily” during the holiday season (whatever your definition of “excessive” or “lazy” is)?
Why is it socially ok and acceptable to be “excessive” or “lazy” or “allowing” during the holiday season, but “restrictive” or “judgemental” or needing to “tighten down” afterwards (again, use your own definitions here)?
What is driving any feelings of “guilt” or need for “self improvement” (how you define them)?
These questions are not meant to judge – they are simply a starting point of inquiry into our own self judgement.
At this time of year when we are filled with a constant barrage of judgement outwardly and perhaps (and usually most often) inwardly, it is important to foster and nurture self love.
Self Love is not the same as being selfish, self interested, or narcissistic. Self Love is about putting on your own oxygen mask before helping others with theirs.
Quite simply, you must have a healthy relationship with yourself before you can relate outwardly to the world in a healthy way.
So, where do we begin?
First, we begin by making space for ourselves. We allow ourselves to look inward.
We can tell our inner judge:
“Thank you for your service, I am grateful you are a part of me, however you are not the voice of my Higher Self and it is not in my best interest to follow your advice in this moment.”
Self Love is a practice.
It takes time and your path is unique to you.
Take the time to carve out the journey.
Put on your oxygen mask.
The world needs you.
Exactly. As. You. Are.